Kevin’s Shared Lives journey to independence

“I didn’t feel that I had much control over my life and felt that I wasn’t allowed to make my own choices. I wanted more independence, more choices and to have more control over my own life,” said Kevin.

It was Kevin’s cousin who first told him about Shared Lives while he was staying in respite care.

“I thought it sounded like a good idea.” That decision to move into Shared Lives has transformed his life.

Today, Kevin lives with Shared Lives carers Lainey and Chris, who have helped him build confidence, independence and a happier future. From the moment he wakes up, Kevin’s days are full and active. He enjoys attending local activity and resource centres, where he spends time with friends, and he has a voluntary role at the Lancashire Light Railway which he describes as his dream job!

“I’m made up with it. I love trains.”

Swimming is another big part of Kevin’s routine, and he also enjoys spending time with his Auntie Lizzie, who remains a very important person in his life.

Kevin says the support he receives from Lainey and Chris has made all the difference.

“Lainey is great. She helps me and advises me when I need help to make decisions. Chris and Lainey are very loyal and friendly, and they understand me and my feelings. They want the best for me and make me feel like part of the family.”

The support they provide is both practical and personal. Lainey helps Kevin plan his days, manage his budget, maintain healthy habits and stay on top of household tasks. She also encourages him to keep in touch with friends and family, attend healthcare appointments and continue developing his independence. Most importantly, Kevin feels supported to live the life he wants, and since joining Shared Lives, the changes have been remarkable.

One of Kevin’s favourite memories so far was attending the Shared Lives Christmas party last year. “We played games and I won ‘play your cards right and won some money. I was made up.”

Like everyone, Kevin still faces challenges from time to time, particularly when plans change unexpectedly or when there is a lot to keep track of. But knowing he has support around him makes those moments easier to manage. “My carers support me, and my Shared Lives officer is there to help me if I need it.”

Looking ahead, Kevin is excited about continuing to learn new skills and becoming even more independent. For anyone considering Shared Lives, his advice is simple:

“Go for it. Being in Shared Lives is great.”

When asked whether Shared Lives was what he expected, he said:

“Before Shared Lives, I felt nervous about what it would be like, but it is better than I thought it would be because I get on with everyone, and they all want to help me. I feel really happy.”

And if he had to sum up his Shared Lives experience in just one sentence?

“Being part of Shared Lives is a pleasure.”

Get involved with this year’s Shared Lives Week and support us to ‘Shout about Shared Lives’ and ‘tell one person’ so that more people can be supported, and more lives can change.

If you think someone you know could benefit from Shared Lives, find your local scheme and reach out to them for a discussion.